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Lisa Napoli at Gracefully Radio interviewed me about why we started Next For Me. In the conversation we cover the changing face of retirement, a looming fiscal crisis and changes in the workplace for +50 workers.
I’ve had the email address email@example.com for a long time. I get some interesting mail from time to time. Some highlights are archived here.
June 24, 2019
Come on Elvis,,,you owe nothing to MJ or Prince it was your friend HRH that help you pull it off! It was not the President of the United States conniving with the media to help those two disappear! Please help the American people in their struggle with the fake news and come on out and tell them the truth!!!
Attend ka rin ba mamaya sa Live Webinar Workshop natin Elvis?
April 12, 2017
April 10, 2017
Première réunion de l’année 2017
January 9, 2017
October 20, 2016
Hi there Elvis,
Tangela in Denver
how’re you? Txt-msg me direct **** seven zero 9 four two one four 2 seven
Use me as your vessel
August 20, 2016
Attention Elvis Presley Elvis A.k.a. Patrick M Reilly and Jessie my name is M and I live in Tampa Florida I’ve been here for the last 40 years! I have had the opportunity of meeting you face-to-face three times. You may not remember but maybe thinking back you may recall visiting my salon at Tampa Bay mall right next door to where your daughter Lisa Marie gave birth to your grandson at St. Joseph’s women’s hospital around the same time. You came in with your partner and I am guessing you were retiring from your undercover work and she needed a new hairdo! Back then you used on me your old trick “when you talk about things that people don’t understand they think you’re crazy” and I must admit it worked! Especially when you told me that you were Elvis Presley and you were not dead! I thought you were crazy! You
Through a mentoring program with the nonprofit StartOut, I’m working with a firecracker named Steve.
StartOut is the national nonprofit that creates great leaders by empowering LGBTQ entrepreneurs.
I’m telling you this cat Steve is on fire. He’s pulling together the biggest deals for a big San Francisco tech company. We meet by phone every two weeks and have never met in person. He’s all business and I appreciate that in the exchange. But he is intense.
He’s also full of young me-ness, so I know where he’s coming from. Having been a young star myself, the world doesn’t always welcome you and your big sense of self.
So it was no surprise that he has a nemesis. This asshole takes credit for his work, tries to undermine him and makes it generally unpleasant to work there. Those kind of downer people can really take the wind out of your sails. And you can’t always turn those situations around. If you can, your heart may be out of it by then. So, we’re agreed that he’s moving on.
He’s interviewing at all the usual mega-unicorns and they quickly see a talent they could use. He’s got this covered. Steve is confident, has the numbers to prove his value and I imagine presents well. You should see his polished LinkedIn profile picture.
And still a Google search on him shows little about his expertise. What will his next advocate find out about him beyond a good interview? Why is he exceptional? He has to change that by writing about what he does.
He’s working on a case study on his big win at the company. My challenge for him was to write another story anonymized with more about the process. Why are you the best at this? Break it out into … more
Here’s the thing about meditating. With enough practice you can call it in times of anxiety, confusion or overwhelm. It’s that simple. You will immediately find yourself more at peace and give a more balanced amount of energy to that which has you in a knot.
You sit on a pillow, on folded knees or on a chair as upright as you can. I get within a couple of feet of a wall as I meditate with my eyes open and this helps for focus. Breath in through your nose to your abdomen. Breath out through your mouth. Count 10 breaths, start again, then again. That’s one set. Do that three times.
Your mind will wander and you’ll zoom in on a topic and you will obsess on it and lose your count. Start again. The only thing to concentrate on is breathing in and breathing out and your upright posture.
When you find yourself obsessing on a thought. Acknowledge it and let it go. A good metaphor is a that you spot a cloud, acknowledge it, then let it float away.
“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.”
For 40 years I’ve gone back to Shunryu Suzuki’s foundational book “Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind“. It’s short chapters progress to a deeper understanding of the concept of zen along with simple how-to’s about sitting in meditation. It will confuse at times and seem to be written in riddles. Not to worry, it will make sense over time.
It’s that easy. Do it every day if you can. Do it somewhere that is not very distracting if you can. Do what you can. I like the middle of a meeting. Go for some hard-core training and try it in a noisy house. … more
Hauser Boulevard. Los Angeles.
Below is the video and text of a presentation I gave at Tech Inclusion in San Francisco on October 19, 2017
Today is my epic story and some techniques for surviving as a graying, gay person in tech.
I’ve worked in tech for close to 35 years and alternative newspapers before that.
I was always interested in changing the status quo through media and associated myself with organizations that I thought at least accepted who I was.
When there was discrimination it was often subtle, but thanks to some early activism I was always reactive first.
Sorry mean people.
I survived with a technique I’ve come to call
“The Humanist + Activist Approach”
Here’s how it works and why it’s more important than ever today.
- If you haven’t noticed… blatant harrassment and discrimination is filling the news cycles.
- We’re in a dangerous political environment. Those in power today are turning back the clock on many gains in civil rights. Just yesterday our vile, so called president was joking about lynching gays. Seriously
- This thinking is becoming normalized and will bleed into the workplace and discrimination will become even more OK.
- This may be hard, but before you react, take time to understand the experiences and point of view of the people you interact with. That’s the Humanist part.
- You DO have a right to be at the table without discrimination though. so, Don’t ever back down.- That’s the Activist part.
- Some Signs
- Subtle uneasiness. Always can tell that something is off that you can’t put your finger on it. This is when understanding that person matters.
- Still, a lot goes unstated. You can almost hear it “He’s old and doesn’t get it” “Gay people are different” “I’d rather not know about that thing I don’t understand” “we don’t