Hawaii 2000-2004

Kauai

In 1999 we had a windfall (for us at least) from my stock options at E*TRADE. At the same time, I was offered a job in New York with Oncology.com, a new company supporting cancer patients. That was too good to turn down.

There were only a couple of big considerations. 1. We’d just purchased a home on the beach on Kauai 2. We had recently gone through cartwheels to buy our first house in Boulder Creek, California. So I had a job and apartment in New York, a house we rented out in California, and the new property on Kauai we needed to prep to rent out until we could be there.

I agreed to take the Oncology.com job for one year, and after six months I would be on Kauai for 2 weeks every other month. 6 months in is also when Lucky headed to Kauai driving our pickup across the country, shipping everything across the pacific. He also sent our beloved dog Rex in the cargo hold of his flight. Poor Rex would be quarantined on Oahu for 6 weeks.

Aloha Dude Vacation Rentals

We would call it Aloha Dude Vacation Rentals.

The Compound
Aloha Dude House
Surf Dude Apartment

Aloha Dude Internet Hut

Around July of 2001 we got the big idea to open an internet hut – a hangout spot for visitors looking to log in while on vacation (this was pre-iPhone). It was also a stop on a cruise through the small town of Kapa’a. There was a hostel around the corner, restaurants, and other shops along the single road around the island.

We would suspend the *iconic 4′ wide disco ball on a pulley apparatus each morning. The team would spend the first hour dusting all of the hip … more

Animation Obsessive

Check out Animation Obsessive. Each issue is always a welcome surprise. This issue covers the history of Ukrainian animation.

This medium is always tangled up with culture, history and politics, both local and international. It’s not just escapism. Animators have something to say in dark times, and it matters. As Ukraine fights for its freedom, we’re celebrating the country’s huge contribution to animation, and the Ukrainian animators who’ve overcome so much.

Відкритий архів. МУЛЬТАГІТПРОП (1927-1929) feat Микита Лиськов

Alexander @ 70

For our friend’s big birthday

It was the Spring of 2000, I was finishing up a project in New York and then would join my husband Lucky on the beach in the town of Kapaa on Kauai. We were opening “Aloha Dude Vacation Rentals” on a property we had just gotten.

I notoriously have a reputation as having a low tolerance for tedious or uninteresting people. Lucky was laying the groundwork, meeting all the people in a small circle of gay folks and the extended ohana on the island. He would give me updates on who was interesting. He kept bringing up a character named Alexander. He had attended a Baby Luau for Alexander’s new son Makanakai. I was intrigued.

Once I landed on Kauai I got the chance to meet him. He was a striking figure with a bright glow about him. Like brotherhood magnets, we connected quickly. I swooned for his stories of showbiz talents on all the rungs of celebrity. He had a sly way of telling his stories and we laughed and laughed with each tale. 

Quickly his family became our family. We relished in the amazing development of this kid Kai. Alex was a natural dad, smiling, laughing and all the while being zoomed in on the responsibility he had taken on with an enormous heart. 

There’s so much more after this, but that time on Kauai was magical with Alexander and was the foundation of a great long friendship. 

Happy Birthday, Dear Alex. We miss you Brother but you’re always right here in our hearts. 

Uncles Jeff and Lucky.

Showtime!

We brought a little Broadway pizzaz to a couple of days of deep maintenance at Camp Dude. Weed whacking, vegetable and flower planting in the greenhouse and shuffling our barn full of wonders.

I’m mentoring Steve and he needs to write

Through a mentoring program with the nonprofit StartOut, I’m working with a firecracker named Steve.

StartOut is the national nonprofit that creates great leaders by empowering LGBTQ entrepreneurs.

I’m telling you this cat Steve is on fire. He’s pulling together the biggest deals for a big San Francisco tech company. We meet by phone every two weeks and have never met in person. He’s all business and I appreciate that in the exchange. But he is intense.

He’s also full of young me-ness, so I know where he’s coming from. Having been a young star myself, the world doesn’t always welcome you and your big sense of self.

So it was no surprise that he has a nemesis. This asshole takes credit for his work, tries to undermine him and makes it generally unpleasant to work there. Those kind of downer people can really take the wind out of your sails. And you can’t always turn those situations around. If you can, your heart may be out of it by then. So, we’re agreed that he’s moving on.

He’s interviewing at all the usual mega-unicorns and they quickly see a talent they could use. He’s got this covered. Steve is confident, has the numbers to prove his value and I imagine presents well. You should see his polished LinkedIn profile picture.

And still a Google search on him shows little about his expertise. What will his next advocate find out about him beyond a good interview? Why is he exceptional? He has to change that by writing about what he does.

He’s working on a case study on his big win at the company. My challenge for him was to write another story anonymized with more about the process. Why are you the best at this? Break it out into … more